17 May 2015

10 Things No One told You about Your Early Twenties

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness" 
A Tale of Two Cities, Charles Dickens

I'm Fiona, and I'm 23. When I was younger I thought I'd hit my twenties and I would be a grown up. Mortgage. Taxes. Coffee. I have zero of those things. When my mum was my age she was married and would be one short year from giving birth to the best person in her life (I'm the favourite, shut up siblings) and when I was young I wanted to be just like my mum but I realise now I am no where near responsible enough to accomplish what my mum did. I am far from being a grown up in general and as I was lying in bed one morning I had this post idea so I'm sharing it, even though I'm petrified about publishing it.

1. You will cringe for eternity at your younger self

But at least we can laugh about it, right? It was just bad haircuts, underage shannengans and poor life decisions. Can I get an L-O-L.

2. You're supposed to have your life figured out

Hello human, in your 20 years of life you've swallowed a lot of academic information, only really experienced one or two working environments and actually can't remember a good 85% of what you did. Welcome to life outside! Now we'd like you to be in your perfect life long career, be stable emotionally, mentally and physically and it would be a total bonus if you could find a life long partner too.  

3. It's highly unlikely that you will roly poly out of school/college/university into your dream job

You wanted to be an astronaut when you grow up? Son, they start recruiting way before now for that and you need to shoot lasers from your eyes - but hey that degree in Fine Art was a super choice! Obviously you did three years of it so must be committed to that choice you made at 17.  Being adaptable was so Dark Ages. Stick at it even though loads of people your age and older are going for the same thing, it's like a million to one out there. May the odds be ever in your favour.

4. There probably isn't a dream job out there

You're such a special little fish in this sea except this sea is huge, ginormous, gargantuan, and the chances of you getting that job where you essentially do nothing but get paid probably doesn't exist. 

5. Everyone else is getting married or having kids 

Wooooah, too much responsibility. Last week I put a biscuit between bread for lunch and now you want me to be responsible? For another human being to depend on me? That will not end well.

6. How do you even make new friends?

Like, walk up to them, crayon in hand, and ask if they want to draw a picture or play imaginary space pirates? How do you talk to another human being? I can't even.

7. What you thought was a lot of money isn't a lot of money

Oh cool, you saved up a few hundred and your ready to face to big wide world?  Jump in to that head first and feel the wrath of crippling debt, yours sincerely, every long term money commitment thing ever. 

8. But then, what you thought was a lot of money is actually SO much money

You're ready to leave the nest and live on your own? Cute. As well as paying rent you'll have to pay gas, electric, internet (yeah that's not free), Netflix, food so don't go making any other big plans, kay? We really want to suck all the money from your bank even though you're just on minimum wage and trying to pay off university debts and all that jazz.

9. Your body will fail you

You're not a spring noodle anymore. There will be crushing tiredness, spots and acne (yeah, not just for teens, they want to see how you are in the next phase of life too) maybe even back pain. You'll have to start taking vitamins and eating vegetables to look out for number one.

10. Everything sucks but you aren't alone

There is no life course or "Life for Dummies" book that can help us along, so we make mistakes and have our hearts broken and get too old to do all sorts of shit, not like it stops us. Luckily there are loads of people in the same boat so try to make the best of it and smile, cutie, we'll get through it. 

Of course, maybe that's just me. Have anymore to add? I'd love to hear them, leave them in the comments below or tweet me.

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  1. Great post! Most days my age doesn't bother me but then there are moments when I think that I'm not 21 anymore or things that I used to love as a teenager/missed out on, and it hits me!

    1. I freak out a little when I realise I was 18 FIVE YEARS AGO and I get flustered because I'm supposed to have some idea about life (if everything was perfect) but some times it doesn't bother me either :)

  2. I never really had any idea what my 20s would be, except I figured I'd be married, have kids and be an artist (also: like my mom.) I have accomplished marriage. ♥ Jen and I started dating when I was 13, and I knew instantly (and vice versa) that she was my soul mate. We married when I was 18, and I'm almost 26 and so we've been married for almost 8 years and it's the most important part of my life. ♥ Neither of us really want kids, so that doesn't matter. We do have our pets, who are our babies.

    I'm kind of an artist, but not a professional one, and still learning my art. It's a challenge. Jen and I both have mental disabilities that are lifelong and therefore neither of us work, and we don't have our own place. That's something neither of us planned on, but we're together, and that is all that counts.

    I'm a little, meaning I am much more like a little kid than I am a big kid. *wink* I'm still a fan of dressing up, all sorts of toys, etc. and that's okay. I also have bills, drink coffee, have Doctor's appointments and chores and goals.

    I don't think anyone, ever, has everything figured out and that's okay too. It's HOW you handle those moments. There's stress, but there's also pushing through and making the best of the situation. I'm always here for you, if you ever need a chat with a fellow 20-something who's kind of gone through a lot (including bankruptcy, hello and goodbye money.) ♥

    1. Wow, I love this response, I almost don't know what to say because it's so sweet of you to share and support me like this :)

      I adore your story, it's so romantic! Congratulations :) I can imagine you with your wife and pets like such a cute happy family- it's making me overly happy and you are so lucky :)

      Good luck with your art, I studied art at uni and I know it takes a lot of perseverance to do it professionally, you'll get there but it's one of those things that doesn't happen overnight so keep at it!

      "It's HOW you handle those moments" is literally so inspiring, I'm going to make it my new mantra. Thank you so much for your personal comment and being there if I need it, it's so lovely to know there are still nice people out there <3

  3. "You will cringe for eternity at your younger self." I'm 40, and I cringe at my 20's self, but less at my 30's self. I'm sure at 50, I'll be cringing at my 40's self, but hopefully at a lower rate than my 30's self. We're all human and growing, that's just how it goes. I'd be more alarmed if I hadn't learned enough in each decade to look back at the previous ones and realize I have more wisdom now!

    1. That is the only thing I love about growing up, all the wisdom. I am constantly cringing at my younger self, but it has gotten better in time (or at least, I hope it has!)